Wednesday, April 18, 2012

A topic near and dear to my heart, Bullying

Now I know that I've got you wondering what in the world I'm talking about when it comes to that subject line, well what I'm going to be talking about it something that I've come to realized needs to be dealt with on every age level not just wish kids, and that is the fact that there are people out there that are adults and they're still getting bullied even out side of school, and personally I not only don't think that it's right, I actually was an idiot for taking part in it in the first place.
 
Now no matter what any one says or thinks, bullying comes in all forms, from verbal to the physical as well. There is one guy that I happen to know (and yes I'm going to say his name too), his name is Justin Stone and he's always telling me that if he didn't tease me (a form of bullying right there) that he wouldn't like it, however the problem that he's got is that he doesn't want to admit that he happens to be bullying me (he actually said that he would kick my ass if I kept doing it to someone else, even though I had already realized what in the world I had done and stopped it). Now a real bully (which is what he happens to be) doesn't want to admit when they are bullying someone, however someone that's not a true bully will actually realize what they're doing and will stop it and go out of their way to tell the person that they were hurting in the first place that they're actually sorry about doing it in the first place, and will go out of their way to make sure that the person isn't getting bullied from others either.
 
Now the deal with Justin is that not only does he keep calling me gay (for which I'm not, hello happily married and trying to have a child with my wife which still isn't working to this day), but he's keeping me from finding out if my laptop is over at his place since he was supposed to take care of it and a couple of other items that I happen to have with that laptop, and he's doing that by constantly coming down town and never being there at his home, which really doesn't help me in any way. Plus here's another hum dinger (yeah I said that) for you, he also doesn't care about what he says or does around others and expects people to actually react to him  the way he's acting to them, even if it happens to be around women and children. So when he gets the reaction that he's going for he's thinks that you're a better person for it, sorry but I'm not about to become a barbarian just for what he thinks. (He also went all Hitler like on a bus at one point, but that's a story for another time).
 
Needless to say that Justin is just one example of a bully that needs to be dealt with, but there are no laws that deal with bullying as an adult and unless there's someone getting hurt, the police won't do anything about it either (which I personally think is wrong, but there's nothing that I can say or do about it). Now I've done it to a dear friend of mine as well, and when I had done it I honestly said that I was sorry for it, and showed it by not doing it any more (I was calling him names, and smacking him over the back side of the head (like what Tony Denozo gets in NCIS which should also be stopped as well) for doing stupid things). I know that it's wrong and I've stopped doing it myself, and the thing is I had jumped onto a band wagon that I should never have jumped on in the first place.
 
(Yeah I know what you're thinking, if others were jumping off a bridge would you do it to, problem is that the bridge is obvious where as what was going on here wasn't and that's how it slipped under my radar and never should've in the first place.)
 
Personally I don't know how in the world to write laws since I'm not a lawyer and I really wouldn't know who in the world to go to in the first place, but I also believe that this should be dealt with on more than just a kids level with K-12. However till that actually happens, there's no way that's it's going to stop, and that's another part of the problem there.
 
Back when I was in school, I myself I had been bullied by the other students that were there, and called a name that I will not write down here. Needless to say that when it came right down to it, those same kids that bullied me not only have stopped but at the same time have told me that they were sorry for it in the first place, and I forgave them for it as well. Of course while I was in school there was one person that I had seen that did want to help but had no idea how to help in the end, of course it didn't help that I scared her away as well (though no I wont mention her name since I made a vow promise not to any more).
 
All I know is that all of this bullying as got to stop period; I just wish that there was a way to do it for all ages.

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Felix Sanchez
Sign Dancer, Liberty Tax Fresno, CA
Alhambra High School
Class of '97
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